Matthew 5:9 (KJV)
9 "Blessed are the peacemakers: for they shall be called the children of God."

Self-righteousness can feel good in the moment. It strokes our pride, makes us feel justified, and gives us the satisfaction of being “right.” But the truth is, always needing to be right often leaves us and those around us in misery.

We live in a world that glorifies winning arguments and proving ourselves right. But Jesus calls us to a different standard: to be peacemakers. In Matthew 5:9, He tells us that peacemakers are blessed and will be recognized as children of God. This doesn’t mean avoiding conflict at all costs, but it does mean choosing humility over self-righteousness and relationships over being right. When we insist on being right, it often leads to hurt feelings, broken relationships, and unnecessary tension. While being “right” might make us feel justified, it rarely brings the peace or joy we’re truly seeking.

Winning hearts is better than winning arguments. Jesus, who was always right, didn’t use His righteousness to argue or condemn. Instead, He used it to serve and save. When faced with opposition, false accusations, and even betrayal, Jesus chose humility and forgiveness over pride and self-defense. Even when He was unjustly accused, Jesus didn’t argue or fight back. He trusted God to bring justice in His time and focused on His mission to save us.

We should always pursue peace not pride.

It feels counterintuitive, but being wrong can be a blessing. Why? Because it reminds us of our need for grace, humility, and God’s wisdom. When we admit we’re wrong, we let go of pride and create space for growth, understanding, and reconciliation. Think about the times you’ve insisted on being right. Maybe you were in a disagreement with a friend or a family member. Even if you proved your point, was the outcome worth it? Did it strengthen the relationship or create more tension?

When we prioritize being right, we often sacrifice peace.

We may end up feeling isolated, frustrated, or even resentful. And the people around us—our loved ones, coworkers, or friends—are left feeling unheard, hurt, or devalued.

Choosing peace over being right reflects the heart of Christ. It’s better to lose the argument than to lose the relationship. We don’t need to have the last word because God is the ultimate judge and defender.

Living in peace doesn’t mean we avoid hard conversations, but it does mean we approach them with humility, patience, and love.

Humility invites God into the situation; pride shuts Him out.

I hope we can truly live by this standard. Amen!